While both Chris Brown and Rihanna may not have chosen to be role-models and they probably do not want that responsibility, their career choices place them firmly in front of the eyes of children, teenagers and young adults. Neither of them are expected to stand in front of cameras and air their dirty laundry in a neat after-school special kind of way. We do not need to see Rihanna crying on 20/20 to understand she is a battered woman but both of them need to let the public know they are getting help--separately.
But that doesn't happen in our society of putting on Perfect Shows--Chris Brown is just misunderstood, Rihanna will "do what the law requires of her" during her day in court and thousands of battered girls and women will silently wonder, "What choice do I have now? Where is my martyr?"
I encourage everyone to read Nickelodeon Thinks Using Your Fists Makes You Cool from Deep South Moms and think about the messages our society sends our children.